quantitative measurement @ friend

if we must, how are you going to quantify a friendship?

is it by the number of years that you have known each others?

then your best friend can be one from kindergarten.

is it by the number of trips that you have travelled together?

then your best friend can be a tour guide.

is it by the number of life dramas that you have encountered together?

then your best friend can be your diary.

there was one time when i decided to put an end to a friendship when i felt like i had to spent so much time around her, which eventually spared me no time to think and act rigorously on my goals. i did not feel like that during our 10 years plus friendship for once. then there was a disruptive moment when i realized that i could not involve in this friendship any more as the meeting frequency is too much for me to bear.

that was also when i learnt my lesson of letting go and choosing what best for me.

technology and globalization expand our personal network to a certain level that we can not make a list or name randomly 10 most frequently talked person anymore but rather depending on social media to help us track all of those connections.

and if you want a specific answer, i quantify friendship by how honest we are sharing hurtful but important feedbacks to that person, how comfortable we are to show our flaws to that person, and how respectful we are to put that person’s feeling into consideration before taking an action or bringing up a conversation.

i now choose to confront my fellows, regardless of closed friends or professional colleagues that i am not the type of person who needs that much of attention and closeness to eventually be of help. we do have enough pressure in life and the least i can do is to not become another burden. i may be out of sight, but definitely not out reach.

that’s almost everything to become a friend of mine. how about you?